Top 10 Gender Identities Beyond Male And Female - Abouticles
https://abouticles.com/gender-identities-beyond-male-and-female/

81 Types of Genders & Gender Identities (A to Z List) (2022) (helpfulprofessor.com)
https://helpfulprofessor.com/types-of-genders-list/

9 most unusual sexual deviations (iliveok.com)
https://m.iliveok.com/news/9-most-unusual-sexual-deviations_72895i15820.html

7 Common Sexual Fantasies: What They Mean, How to Try, and More (healthline.com)
https://www.healthline.com/health/healthy-sex/sexual-fantasies

RELATIONSHIPS

I have been with my husband for 32 years and we have four children together (14,16,18 and 22). Over the years we’ve struggled with money (husband is a self employed builder) and I have got some biggish debts which are under control as I have a payment plan in place. He also has some debts. I have also always worked, some of the years part time, but I’ve been full time for the last 3 years and do overtime regularly. Anyway, my mother in law died a year ago and left my husband just over £200,000 which was totally unexpected. He said he wanted to pay off the mortgage (£45,000) and gave the kids £2,500 each. I really hoped he would offer to pay some of my debts (not all) but I feel really awkward about talking about it with him! He did pay the rest of the money I owed my dad for my car (£3,500) so he’s given me something. Any thoughts?

I 28F have been in a relationship with my partner 30M for about 7 years now. Of course when we first starting seeing each other we were going at it like rabbits, he couldn't stop touching me, wanting to be with me. He just seemed to be extremely attacted to me. We moved in together last year and everything, to me, has started to change. He doesn't touch me, doesn't compliment me, and doesn't seem to desire me...It's left me feeling like garbage. YES, I have picked up some weight but I don't think Ive changed all that much. So now we have sex once every two weeks and it feels like its obligatory for him becuase he seems so far gone from the situation, or I'm the one who is desperately trying to initiate any sort of intimacy. I've tried talking to him about it and he just says "I'm tired", "I dont feel good", "Not now". I feel like I'm convinving him to want to be intimate with me, which as I'm sure you can imagine doesnt feel great. Other than that, we still hang out, have conversations, more or less the "Best Friend" aspect is still there, if that makes sense. I know we are getting older, I know we have busy lives, but it feels off. Can you help me understand if I'm going crazy, or is my bf just not into me anymore?

So, I (23F) recently got married to my husband (29M) and we’re currently living with his family while our house is ready to move in. I didn’t feel too good yesterday so spent the day in bed and came downstairs in the evening. My husband was sat on one sofa, my MIL on the other, so I sat on the empty sofa to avoid spreading any virus. Shortly after, my husband came and sat next to me and asked if I’d rub his back. I told him I wasn’t feeling great and would appreciate if he could give me a rub. He said he would do when we got in bed later and moved back to the other sofa. His mum went and sat next to him and gave him the back rub he wanted, rubbed his head and neck while looking at me. I felt very uncomfortable. Then my husband started rubbing his mums back and shoulders. I was completely astounded that he refused to touch his wife but did for his mother. We later had a conversation where I expressed how it upset me and I felt embarrassed that he very clearly showed his mum she gets what I don’t. He said I was overreacting and he didn’t feel comfortable rubbing me in front of her, and can rub his mother because we’re living in her house. He says I’ll get this treatment in our own home but he doesn’t think it’s appropriate in his family home. Am I overreacting?

We're going through a rough patch. We've been arguing over the fact that he's choosing to play Fortnite every night instead of being a partner to me and a father to our children. We've gotten no where with "compromise" and talking/arguing about it. Well last night, I'd had enough. I snapped and asked him what he wants from me because at the minute, I feel like I'm just here to give him a roof. I do ALL childcare and housework, he works 8-4.30pm, comes home and does sweet FA. I'm sick of it. His response was that he doesn't care if our relationship finishes OR continues, he's just going with the flow. What do I do now?

PARENTING

So I recently noticed that my sons “friends” are coming to my house and their parents will leave and lock their doors and tell their kid they will be back in a few hours. The last time this happened I told his friend that his dad can’t just leave him at my house without speaking to me first because it happens alot. Now he isnt friends with my son anymore. it seems like all the friends he has had are always at my house for a reason other than being friends with my son. Toys, video games, food. When I tell them to play outside they leave my son behind. I feel angry about the situation because there is nothing I can do. Am I wrong for not wanting to watch these kids?

My daughter is a very happy, very bright 7 year old 2nd grader with a head full of dreams. Unfortunately, that means most of the time she is constantly losing things. Last year it was bad enough that she was losing a pair of gloves and a hat per week, if not more frequently. Where we live, most of the year you can't be outside for a few moments without those items, you'll suffer frostbite or worse. They've only been back to school for three weeks. She's already lost a pair of indoor shoes, a jacket, her agenda, a bunch of her supplies. This morning, I get an email from her teacher that she was in line for class without a jacket, but wearing gloves?! I did giver her gloves and a jacket when I dropped her off. I'm perplexed. I'm waiting for the day where I get a call from child services that I'm reported for never sending her to school with gloves or a jacket! How do I get her to be more mindful?

My son is in high school now and is having a small party this weekend. We keep all of our liquor in a cabinet in the basement. I would prefer not to move it because our house is not very big and I just don't really have any place else to store it. So I was thinking maybe getting those magnet baby locks for the cabinet? I don't want to get a real lock because I don't want to drill into the cabinet door. I know nothing is foolproof but I'm just looking for something to be a deterrent. Any suggestions?

So, my mind is kind of in a whirlwind right now. Last night my 6 year old son told me that he didn’t want to exist. He told me he wishes he were dead and wants to kill himself. I am just, at a loss. My and my husband both have history of mental illness, so I knew he would probably have trouble later on, but I wasn’t expecting it this young. I thought I had more time to talk to him about depression, and try to prepare him. I’ve contacted a few child psychologists this morning, but I haven’t heard back yet. What do I do in the meantime?

WORK

Some coworkers have a way of getting you to overstate. How do you tighten up the boundary like, very tightly?

Recently I'm feeling less motivated at work. I don't want to learn a new skill, Just hitting the office finishing the job and coming back. Does anyone else feels the same? How do you keep yourself motivated?

Recently, I left my job for a new one because the contract on my original job was coming to a close and there wasn't an opportunity for me to get extended/converted. I got an offer to join a new company after a relatively quick interview process. I am only into my first week so far but the job is not what I expected it to be. Now, im worried that if I left after only a week it would ruin my chances of finding a better one because future employers may find out or speak to my original contract job and ask why I left. Should I just stick with this new job for a year?

My boss isn't aware of my speech impediment as I would like to keep this information to myself. My boss really likes the quality of my work and has no other concerns but keeps bringing up my communication and how can I actually get to the next level as long as improve my communication. However, I know that due to my speech impediment I can't overcome my hesitation to speak in front of a group. Some days I feel like mentioning to my boss that I have a hearing issue which has impacted my speech and it should not be a deciding factor when considering promotion but at the same time I feel that by sharing this information I am letting them decide for me whether I can do certain stuff or not. I don't want anyone else to be making that decision for me. I work in a corporate world and communication skills are considered really important even if you are mediocre at your job, as long as you can bullshit convincingly. Should I share this with my boss?

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Jazz and Lubby talk raising teens.

Parenting Teens: 15 Tips to Raise Happy, Motivated Teenagers (daniel-wong.com)
https://www.daniel-wong.com/2021/12/04/parenting-teens/

Talk to Your Kids About Sex and Healthy Relationships - MyHealthfinder | health.gov
https://health.gov/myhealthfinder/healthy-living/sexual-health/talk-your-kids-about-sex-and-healthy-relationships

Teens and drugs: 5 tips for talking with your kids - Harvard Health
https://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/teens-and-drugs-5-tips-for-talking-with-your-kids-2018081614565

17 Activities to do with Teenager (Family Activities with Teens) (moneyprodigy.com)
https://www.moneyprodigy.com/activities-to-do-with-teenager

Plus this weeks dive into Reddit

RELATIONSHIPS

I only found out I had a daughter three months ago when she reached out to me and a DNA test confirmed it. I broke up with her mother before I knew she was pregnant and she never reached out to me after that. So it was a bit of a shock. But we kept in touch, we saw each other a few times. A week ago she asked me if she could move in with me for a few months because her mom kicked her out. I told her I'd think about it but I honestly don't want her to move in. I don't know how to tell her no without hurting her feelings. How do I do that?

I was offered a baseball scholarship in high school. My girlfriend got pregnant and I turned it down so I could stay with her. She had no one and I couldn’t take care of her and the baby while in school. She passed away while she was in the first trimester. After that, I stayed in town and got a job selling motorcycles. I accepted that my life could have been a lot different but I made the right decision at the time. I now live with my current girlfriend and her/our daughter. I met her when she was three months pregnant and I’ve raised and cared for her alongside her mother. She may not be biologically mine, but she’s my baby. My girlfriend stays home with her while I work. I met my parents for lunch yesterday. We were chatting and I said something about my job. My dad got a little frustrated and said I wouldn’t have had to deal with it if I had gone to college on my scholarship. I told him no, I needed to stay here for what I thought was going to be my new family. My dad has always been furious that I turned the scholarship down to stay here. He said “you turned down the perfect life just to end up with a shit job and take care of another man’s child.” How do I get my father to accept I'm happy with my life as it is?

My girlfriend and I were having a conversation about “work crushes”. She mentioned that there’s a handsome guy at her work and that he looks middle eastern. Me: jokingly I say to her that maybe she has a thing for middle eastern guys. She said that she had briefly dated two guys like that. And that she finds that look to be very attractive etc. Then she almost subconsciously blurted out in passing that it’s her preferred type. I explained to her that it makes me feel like I am her second choice. (I am White btw). She goes on to say that she finds me attractive and I have other characteristics that she also loves about me etc. What do I do now?

It's a very complicated story how me and my husband got married. But to make a long story short, it's a lot of family issue, debts, and cultural things involved. So it's like I was forced to marry him. I get married at 23 years old, and my husband was 28 years old. It's been 3 years since our marriage (I'm 26 and he's 31 now) and what I respect about him is he never touch me or even tried to make me do things that I don't want. And this is including getting intimate. We never get intimate because I told him that I'm not ready for it, and he respect it. That respect slowly growing into me actually liking him, I just don't know but he looks so much better in my eyes these days than 3 years ago. But I just don't know how to tell him that I'm finally ready to be a wife that he wants. Not gonna lie I feel very ashamed of myself too for basically ignoring him all these years. Any advice on how I should approach this situation without embarrassing myself?

PARENTING

My son is turning ten in a few weeks and he wants to invite the entire class with the exception of one kid who has bullied him (and a few others) for the last two years. Part of me feels bad that this kid will be the only one not invited but their feelings aren’t really my problem, my priority is my son and this other child causes a lot of problems at school. I also don’t deal with conflict well and the last few times this child wasn’t invited to other parties, the father confront the parents and demands to know why. I know this all sounds a bit petty but is bad to exclude this other child?

My toddler has been going to a babysitter once a week for the past four months. We had a terrible experience trying to put her in two different daycares, but I absolutely love her babysitter. The babysitter has two young children of her own and also watches two other children. Recently my babysitter has made several comments about how poor she is. She moved to a beautiful, large house on plenty of land. She has two cars, gorgeous furnishings in her home, and certainly does not look poor upon first impression. She tried taking on even more children, so that at a certain point there were 8 kids:1 adult, but that didn't work out and she ended up firing a few of the kids (they started to bully her son). She's also been trying to frantically sell all of her old clothing online. My husband went to pick up the toddler a couple of weeks ago and said he saw the babysitter's SO sitting on the couch with bloodshot, teary eyes. She recently sent me a message and told me she's trying to get a weekend/evening job at a fast food joint, so we might have to start picking the kiddo up earlier in the day. Last week, I texted her multiple times while kiddo was in her care and she never answered me. I asked her at pickup if she got my texts and she said she hadn't paid her phone bill this month. Should I be concerned?

I (30M) have taken in 2 teen siblings (15F/17M). My brother is pretty chill, just games and does his own thing. My sister though, created a whole social media persona about how shitty her life is. I get ppl cope with stuff in different ways, but she goes on TikTok and basically pretends she is homeless, a self harmer, an addict, etc. Basically all very negative things. The reality is she has her own room, an iPhone 13, an electric scooter, we live in a good neighborhood and all her needs are met. I was angsty when I was a kid too I guess, but I can’t help but feel some type of way…like I’m not expecting gratitude from a kid, but pretending she has some dark, deep past for likes on socials is really hurting me. This hasn’t been easy, so I’m just trying to do the best I can. Oh, and therapy…yeah I tried that and she won’t go. How do I address this?

My baby boy seems to cry anytime I have him- I’m his mom- but perks up with everyone else- husband, MIL, etc. I have postpartum depression so he may be picking up on that but really wanting encouragement because my baby DOES NOT want me most of the time .How do I make him like me?

SEX

Recently found my(19M) missing stringer(tank top) in my girlfriend’s(21F) dorm room. It was my favorite stringer and looked everywhere for it; so I was pissed when I saw it there, and I fucking knew she wasn’t wearing it since it was super musty from my workout(I suffer from hyperhidrosis, so every inch of it was SOAKED through with sweat). So when I confronted her about it she told me that she likes to jerk off to it. She was really embarrassed about her kink(?). Is it that common? How can I make it more pleasurable for her(somehow)?

I, 19f, recently found out that my boyfriend, 24m, watches porn because of his search history on his laptop. We talked about it and agreed that it's not a big deal. Him watching porn doesn't really bother me. So one night, while he was at work, I decided to watch porn myself. I didn't think it was a big deal seeing as he did it himself a few days ago. But when he came home and saw that I'd been watching lesbian porn he was hurt and insulted. He was upset because he felt like it invalidated our relationship - I'm dating a man, not a woman. He felt like I was disrespecting him, as obviously lesbian sex is different from straight sex. He told me that I should be with a woman if that's what I want. The thing is, he already knew I was bi and that I liked women, so I don't know why it's such a shock. What is going on??

I'm dating this guy, he likes me a lot, but he has so many red flags. I don't see a long lasting relationship with him. The thing is, I'm almost 25 and still a virgin and I was thinking to stay with him a few months to learn stuff about sex. But I'm afraid I will get very attached and end up heartbroken. How do I have sex and not get attached?

I (M31) have been dating my gf (28) for 9 months. Initially, in the first few months, we had a lot of sex (once a day). We now live together and maybe have sex once or twice a week. She works from home and I don’t. I’ve noticed when I come home that her vibrator which she keeps on a shelf in our bedroom closet has been moved or used and now have started to see where it was versus where it is the next day. (Moved). I feel like when we have sex, we have great sex but she is not as up for it as much as she used to be or will say, ‘no not tonight’ or ‘not this morning’ but then once I leave for work she is clearly masturbating on her own. It’s really getting to me as I’m worried she’s no longer into our sex or me and I have found myself thinking about it a lot and checking to see if the vibrator was used when I get home. Am I being crazy?

WORK

I recently started a new job that has a ton of downtime. Which sounds nice until the busy season starts then we get crushed. However, as my work is time sensitive I can’t start whenever I want. It’s very much a do them as they come in type of job. Anyway, I feel like there are days if not weeks where I go in and do nothing for 8 hours then go home. Is this normal?

I am currently employed and my job will soon be reorganized. Some of the responsibilities will be taken away and a lot will be added. To put it simply, the unique one-man job I am doing will be only for a fraction the same. Can a company just do that and would I need to sign a new contract?

I was told I’m not my boss’s favorite because he doesn’t get along with girls who are “strong willed” and that’s why he’s only scheduled me one day a week. I guess advocating for myself that I need more hours than that to pay rent and bills makes me a strong willed bitch. Not only that he scheduled me to work the day I had court which I told him about when I got hired. I told him I could work any other day. I came in anyway and worked 3 hours after throwing up from nerves of having to represent myself in court against the man who sexually assaulted me and I’m still the bitch.. I don’t get it. I offered to come in Saturday when the other waitress got Covid and he said no, not even a thank you, nothing. Why am I hated?

I recently helped someone write a proposal, and did a significant amount of the work. I basically carved out the entire direction and validated it. I recently found out that the lead had taken my name off of it prior to submitting the proposal. What’s the best course of action here? HR? Manager? Both?

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7 Best Places to Meet Singles (For Men & Women) (datingadvice.com)

6 Tips For Writing a Great Personal Ad

What to Talk About on a First Date: 20 Things (marriage.com)

11 Things You Should NOT Talk About on The First Date (herlifeonline.com)

15 helpful tips to breaking up with someone you just started dating (ideapod.com)

RELATIONSHIPS

How would you feel if your mother opened your children’s birthday cards and made her own decision on what would happen with the money?

Yesterday, I went clubbing for the first time...... (bad idea)!!!! I got drugged and blacked out for the whole night. I could barely remember half of the night. (I couldn't even remember the cab driver's face or the guys that safely called us a cab). I was struggling to remain conscious enough to call a cab. I didn't know where I was. I didn't remember where the cab driver dropped us and I didn't remember where my dorm was. I know I was kissed cause my mouth hurts. Now my boyfriend is angry at me because I shared a non-consensual kiss. How do I make him understand its not my fault?

Me and my boyfriend were friends prior to us dating, I knew him for about a year before we started dating and we’ve been dating for 3 months. Me and him were very close before and he had became friends with me because my best friend introduced him to me. He confessed he had feelings for me but I wasn’t in a good place at the time to reciprocate feelings, But the more we talked the more i started to like him. When we started dating he constantly wanted to be around me which was fine but it was too much because at times i needed space and time for myself it felt as if he was suffocating me. When i would tell him I would call him later because I needed to shower, You could tell he was getting upset and he would be like ‘why don’t you just bring it with you are you hiding something ’? How do I get him to stop being so clingy?

My fiance has changed his preferences to directly fit in to a female coworkers of him. He gets a new job after being unemployed for a while due to mental health and starts working with a 23yo named "Chrissy". He talks about her just like he talks about all his other employees. No suspicious behavior in the beginning. But then shit just changes quick. Like he is not a dog person at all and has expressed multiple times that he never wanted one but all the sudden, out of the blue, he "needed" a dog and was constantly looking up photos of dogs or watching tiktoks of dogs and low and behold, we now have a dog. The connection there is that Chrissy brings her 3 dogs to work every day and only posts on social media about how much of a dog mom she is and how she can't trust anyone who doesn't like dogs, or can't be with anyone who doesn't like/have "doggos". Second thing.. Matt doesn't drink often and when he does, he is strictly a whiskey drinker. He hates anything pumpkin flavored and hates beer. He all the sudden started bringing home pumpkin head beer every single weekend. This was shortly following Chrissy posting on FB about being upset because she ran out of Pumpkin Head and had to drink a different beer or whatever (I only know her posts because she added me on FB some months back). Am I being paranoid?

SEX
Girl said she wanted to be “sexually disrespected” in bed. What exactly is she looking for? Im
open minded but I’m looking for specific things she would want me to do to her? What do you like? Don’t want to take it too far but at the same time don’t want to be boring.

Hi I’ve been in a relationship for 7 months and my girl is on BC and one other medication and ever since we started doing sexual stuff 4 months ago I haven’t gotten her wet at anytime during the 4 months we been doing it. The days I ask her about it she tells me she likes it and I shouldn’t worry about it and it’s her medication that’s causing her to be really dry. Also when we have sex we have to use extra stuff just for me to get in. So is this bad and should I be doing stuff about it or should I just listen to her and keep doing the same old stuff?
I am a new mom of a 6 month old, but during my pregnancy I didn't have much of a sex drive at all and that was very not me....but now it's hitting me all at once all these hormones and my sex drive is crazy but I currently am not in a relationship with my baby's father so I am getting nada. I feel like all I do is take care of my baby and see the occasional friend but when I do have a spare moment to myself all I want to do is have sex .... I'm tempted to reach out to other people I know and start flirting and what not but I don't want to be like that ...that is not who I am. I am the relationship type but all I can think about is sex and even when I am sitting there doing nothing I get aroused just by the slightest thought of becoming hot and heavy with even a stranger ....God what is wrong with me. I feel like a bad mom for even thinking of doing that ...let alone what if I can't control myself one day and end up screwing the mailman for heaven sake lol But seriously would it be slutty of me to have a random hook up with a baby so young?

What is off limits during Periods?

PARENTING

My first grader came home yesterday telling me that this year they aren’t allowed to play tag because someone could get hurt. I’m actually kind of upset about this. Why have recess at all? I don’t want to be the bitchy mom but I honestly want to bring this up to the teacher. Should I?

My kiddo shares their birthday with Thanksgiving. Most people are traveling or have family plans around that time. I’d still like to do something small and special with family on their real birthday but throw the birthday party with lots of kids on their half birthday. But it is kind of weird. How would you feel if your kid was invited to a half birthday party?

Messy divorce. Ex-husband has two kids from previous marriage. One is 16 and brand new behind the wheel. He wants her to pick up our 6 year old son. I told him I wasn't comfortable with that and would be happy to meet him or have my folks meet him at a convienent location. Now he's pissed and saying I am being unreasonable. Plus custody agreement says responsible adult for transportation. Am I being unfair here?

My 4 year old is on her 4th day of school today. She's been really cranky after school and struggles to behave and regulate emotions. Like my kid went from easy going to having meltdowns when she's told what to do. She's also given me a lot more attitude. Last night she also woke up screaming and crying asking for me to cuddle her. What's going on??

WORK

I have a meeting next week to renew my contract and the manager asked me to do a report of any achievements/successes I’ve had in the last few months ahead of said meeting. Any advice for what should be included or how I go about this?

Suppose you anticipate being asked where you’re going, why you’re leaving, and if you’ll attend an exit interview. And suppose there’s no merit to answering these questions, and you’d like not to. How can you politely refuse? Without burning bridges, I’d just like to shrug all this off.

I (25f) have been working as a Graphic Designer since I graduated college. Graphic Design and Art have always been passions of mine, but after entering the job field I've just found more annoyance and frustration working in this field than pleasure. Awhile ago I was working with clients directly through a company that employed me. The pay was awful and taking clients was miserable. I decided to find something new and I'm now working in the marketing department in an office building as the Graphic Designer, so I'm no longer taking clients. However, I've found the direction (or lack there of) from my supervisor to be infuriating and not much better than dealing with a client. I'm not able to have any creative freedom, and the repetition of creating ad after ad using the same formula has me bored out of my mind. What do I do now?

I've worked at my job for 2 1/2 years. I've had 17 days off sick because I have a medical condition I'm taking meds for. I normally get to work 5 days. Now I'm only aloud to work 3 days a week because my manager has worked out how much I've worked over the last 12 weeks and I'm now working that average if that makes sense to anyone?