Jazz and Lubby talk raising teens.
Parenting Teens: 15 Tips to Raise Happy, Motivated Teenagers (daniel-wong.com)
https://www.daniel-wong.com/2021/12/04/parenting-teens/
Talk to Your Kids About Sex and Healthy Relationships - MyHealthfinder | health.gov
https://health.gov/myhealthfinder/healthy-living/sexual-health/talk-your-kids-about-sex-and-healthy-relationships
Teens and drugs: 5 tips for talking with your kids - Harvard Health
https://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/teens-and-drugs-5-tips-for-talking-with-your-kids-2018081614565
17 Activities to do with Teenager (Family Activities with Teens) (moneyprodigy.com)
https://www.moneyprodigy.com/activities-to-do-with-teenager
Plus this weeks dive into Reddit
RELATIONSHIPS
I only found out I had a daughter three months ago when she reached out to me and a DNA test confirmed it. I broke up with her mother before I knew she was pregnant and she never reached out to me after that. So it was a bit of a shock. But we kept in touch, we saw each other a few times. A week ago she asked me if she could move in with me for a few months because her mom kicked her out. I told her I'd think about it but I honestly don't want her to move in. I don't know how to tell her no without hurting her feelings. How do I do that?
I was offered a baseball scholarship in high school. My girlfriend got pregnant and I turned it down so I could stay with her. She had no one and I couldn’t take care of her and the baby while in school. She passed away while she was in the first trimester. After that, I stayed in town and got a job selling motorcycles. I accepted that my life could have been a lot different but I made the right decision at the time. I now live with my current girlfriend and her/our daughter. I met her when she was three months pregnant and I’ve raised and cared for her alongside her mother. She may not be biologically mine, but she’s my baby. My girlfriend stays home with her while I work. I met my parents for lunch yesterday. We were chatting and I said something about my job. My dad got a little frustrated and said I wouldn’t have had to deal with it if I had gone to college on my scholarship. I told him no, I needed to stay here for what I thought was going to be my new family. My dad has always been furious that I turned the scholarship down to stay here. He said “you turned down the perfect life just to end up with a shit job and take care of another man’s child.” How do I get my father to accept I'm happy with my life as it is?
My girlfriend and I were having a conversation about “work crushes”. She mentioned that there’s a handsome guy at her work and that he looks middle eastern. Me: jokingly I say to her that maybe she has a thing for middle eastern guys. She said that she had briefly dated two guys like that. And that she finds that look to be very attractive etc. Then she almost subconsciously blurted out in passing that it’s her preferred type. I explained to her that it makes me feel like I am her second choice. (I am White btw). She goes on to say that she finds me attractive and I have other characteristics that she also loves about me etc. What do I do now?
It's a very complicated story how me and my husband got married. But to make a long story short, it's a lot of family issue, debts, and cultural things involved. So it's like I was forced to marry him. I get married at 23 years old, and my husband was 28 years old. It's been 3 years since our marriage (I'm 26 and he's 31 now) and what I respect about him is he never touch me or even tried to make me do things that I don't want. And this is including getting intimate. We never get intimate because I told him that I'm not ready for it, and he respect it. That respect slowly growing into me actually liking him, I just don't know but he looks so much better in my eyes these days than 3 years ago. But I just don't know how to tell him that I'm finally ready to be a wife that he wants. Not gonna lie I feel very ashamed of myself too for basically ignoring him all these years. Any advice on how I should approach this situation without embarrassing myself?
PARENTING
My son is turning ten in a few weeks and he wants to invite the entire class with the exception of one kid who has bullied him (and a few others) for the last two years. Part of me feels bad that this kid will be the only one not invited but their feelings aren’t really my problem, my priority is my son and this other child causes a lot of problems at school. I also don’t deal with conflict well and the last few times this child wasn’t invited to other parties, the father confront the parents and demands to know why. I know this all sounds a bit petty but is bad to exclude this other child?
My toddler has been going to a babysitter once a week for the past four months. We had a terrible experience trying to put her in two different daycares, but I absolutely love her babysitter. The babysitter has two young children of her own and also watches two other children. Recently my babysitter has made several comments about how poor she is. She moved to a beautiful, large house on plenty of land. She has two cars, gorgeous furnishings in her home, and certainly does not look poor upon first impression. She tried taking on even more children, so that at a certain point there were 8 kids:1 adult, but that didn't work out and she ended up firing a few of the kids (they started to bully her son). She's also been trying to frantically sell all of her old clothing online. My husband went to pick up the toddler a couple of weeks ago and said he saw the babysitter's SO sitting on the couch with bloodshot, teary eyes. She recently sent me a message and told me she's trying to get a weekend/evening job at a fast food joint, so we might have to start picking the kiddo up earlier in the day. Last week, I texted her multiple times while kiddo was in her care and she never answered me. I asked her at pickup if she got my texts and she said she hadn't paid her phone bill this month. Should I be concerned?
I (30M) have taken in 2 teen siblings (15F/17M). My brother is pretty chill, just games and does his own thing. My sister though, created a whole social media persona about how shitty her life is. I get ppl cope with stuff in different ways, but she goes on TikTok and basically pretends she is homeless, a self harmer, an addict, etc. Basically all very negative things. The reality is she has her own room, an iPhone 13, an electric scooter, we live in a good neighborhood and all her needs are met. I was angsty when I was a kid too I guess, but I can’t help but feel some type of way…like I’m not expecting gratitude from a kid, but pretending she has some dark, deep past for likes on socials is really hurting me. This hasn’t been easy, so I’m just trying to do the best I can. Oh, and therapy…yeah I tried that and she won’t go. How do I address this?
My baby boy seems to cry anytime I have him- I’m his mom- but perks up with everyone else- husband, MIL, etc. I have postpartum depression so he may be picking up on that but really wanting encouragement because my baby DOES NOT want me most of the time .How do I make him like me?
SEX
Recently found my(19M) missing stringer(tank top) in my girlfriend’s(21F) dorm room. It was my favorite stringer and looked everywhere for it; so I was pissed when I saw it there, and I fucking knew she wasn’t wearing it since it was super musty from my workout(I suffer from hyperhidrosis, so every inch of it was SOAKED through with sweat). So when I confronted her about it she told me that she likes to jerk off to it. She was really embarrassed about her kink(?). Is it that common? How can I make it more pleasurable for her(somehow)?
I, 19f, recently found out that my boyfriend, 24m, watches porn because of his search history on his laptop. We talked about it and agreed that it's not a big deal. Him watching porn doesn't really bother me. So one night, while he was at work, I decided to watch porn myself. I didn't think it was a big deal seeing as he did it himself a few days ago. But when he came home and saw that I'd been watching lesbian porn he was hurt and insulted. He was upset because he felt like it invalidated our relationship - I'm dating a man, not a woman. He felt like I was disrespecting him, as obviously lesbian sex is different from straight sex. He told me that I should be with a woman if that's what I want. The thing is, he already knew I was bi and that I liked women, so I don't know why it's such a shock. What is going on??
I'm dating this guy, he likes me a lot, but he has so many red flags. I don't see a long lasting relationship with him. The thing is, I'm almost 25 and still a virgin and I was thinking to stay with him a few months to learn stuff about sex. But I'm afraid I will get very attached and end up heartbroken. How do I have sex and not get attached?
I (M31) have been dating my gf (28) for 9 months. Initially, in the first few months, we had a lot of sex (once a day). We now live together and maybe have sex once or twice a week. She works from home and I don’t. I’ve noticed when I come home that her vibrator which she keeps on a shelf in our bedroom closet has been moved or used and now have started to see where it was versus where it is the next day. (Moved). I feel like when we have sex, we have great sex but she is not as up for it as much as she used to be or will say, ‘no not tonight’ or ‘not this morning’ but then once I leave for work she is clearly masturbating on her own. It’s really getting to me as I’m worried she’s no longer into our sex or me and I have found myself thinking about it a lot and checking to see if the vibrator was used when I get home. Am I being crazy?
WORK
I recently started a new job that has a ton of downtime. Which sounds nice until the busy season starts then we get crushed. However, as my work is time sensitive I can’t start whenever I want. It’s very much a do them as they come in type of job. Anyway, I feel like there are days if not weeks where I go in and do nothing for 8 hours then go home. Is this normal?
I am currently employed and my job will soon be reorganized. Some of the responsibilities will be taken away and a lot will be added. To put it simply, the unique one-man job I am doing will be only for a fraction the same. Can a company just do that and would I need to sign a new contract?
I was told I’m not my boss’s favorite because he doesn’t get along with girls who are “strong willed” and that’s why he’s only scheduled me one day a week. I guess advocating for myself that I need more hours than that to pay rent and bills makes me a strong willed bitch. Not only that he scheduled me to work the day I had court which I told him about when I got hired. I told him I could work any other day. I came in anyway and worked 3 hours after throwing up from nerves of having to represent myself in court against the man who sexually assaulted me and I’m still the bitch.. I don’t get it. I offered to come in Saturday when the other waitress got Covid and he said no, not even a thank you, nothing. Why am I hated?
I recently helped someone write a proposal, and did a significant amount of the work. I basically carved out the entire direction and validated it. I recently found out that the lead had taken my name off of it prior to submitting the proposal. What’s the best course of action here? HR? Manager? Both?
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