How to Find a Therapist That's Right for You: 9 Key Tips (healthline.com)
https://www.healthline.com/health/how-to-find-a-therapist

How to Interview a Potential Therapist. Twenty Three Questions to Ask (choosehelp.com)
https://www.choosehelp.com/topics/counseling/getting-to-know-a-potential-therapist-helps-you-chose-the-right-one

What to Expect in Your First Therapy Session | Psych Central
Things to Expect (and Not!) in Your First Therapy Session
https://psychcentral.com/lib/what-to-expect-in-your-first-counseling-session

What happens during sex therapy? - ISSM
https://www.issm.info/sexual-health-qa/what-happens-during-sex-therapy/

RELATIONSHIP

My wife (29F) and I (28M) just had our first baby 2 months ago and we made the decision we want our baby to be fluent in 3 languages for the baby’s future. My wife and I are both bilingual and fluent in 2 languages. My wife can speak Korean and English and I can speak Japanese and English. My wife thinks when I talk to the baby I should speak in Japanese and when she talks to the baby she should speak in Korean. She believes that since we live in America, our son will be fluent in English no matter what from school so we should begin speaking the other two languages at home. I said it would confuse the baby so we should use English until he’s about 4 and then start teaching the other two languages. This leads to problems and fighting because of the completely different approaches. who is right?

My husband (21) and I (20) got married about two weeks ago. Today when I came home he said he needed to tell me something. I don’t know what I was expecting. He told me that he might have a child with a girl he used to date. Apparently she doesn’t want him in her or her child’s life. The child is still very young. They haven’t had contact since she sent him ultrasound pictures. He told me he tried to make it work with her but it didn’t. There’s no paternity test and right now she doesn’t want one. But he didn’t just find out about this. He’s known since she got pregnant and he never told me about it. At first I was in shock, but now I am so angry. I am so angry he never told me when he’s had multiple opportunities to do so. The only reason he told me today was because he found out she’s been having dinner with his grandma. Why would she do that if she wants nothing to do with him? what do i do now?

Need someone to dump cold water on me and tell me that I (40/m) should not date this girl (25/f).

Girlfriend tested positive for Chlamydia and is accusing me of cheating but i didn’t. How do I convince her?

WORK

Is there a diplomatic way to indicate on your resume you tolerated an Ahole as part of your job responsibilities?

I took a job 6 months ago and it turned out the place is in complete disarray and total chaos. I worked very hard at the cost of my health and my family. Suddenly ny boss was fired and they brought in a new one. I've been explaining to him that my workload is that of 3 people and asking for help or direction of some kind. He keeps saying things like "if you're not happy you should make a decision to leave". If I quit, my family will suffer financially. It will be devastating. If they fire me at least I'll get unemployment and can look for another job. Have you ever been in this position? Anything I can say to get him to just fire me, without jeopardizing my unemployment insurance?

Hello fresh grad here! So i received a job offer in the field of automation and they are going to train us. In exchange of a 4 year bond or pay half a million(in Philippine peso) ? Thoughts?

PARENTING

I (27M) love my SO (34F) and our 2 month old boy. Today we drove an hour and a half away to a really good pediatric dentist to get a frenectomy done with the assistance of my MIL. MIL sat in the backseat with baby. Procedure went well but on the way back home baby started to cry because local anesthetic began to wear off. That’s when MIL took baby out of carseat to comfort him in her arms. They never liked the carseat because how uncomfortable it makes baby look and frankly I have agreed with them about that but I know it’s the safest spot for a baby to be in just in case of an accident. So I said maybe he can be comforted while in the carseat and they said that he’ll be put back in the carseat when he calms down. He stops crying after about 5 minutes and falls asleep again. We still had about 50 minutes in our drive home so I asked if he can be put back in the carseat and they both refused saying he might wake up and cry again. Am I being overly anxious about him being held in the car rather than being in the carseat?

I (37M) am an introvert. On the exterior nobody would know it, but it drains me when I lead meetings, go to social functions, etc. Enter my sweet, loving daughters (6 & 8). I love them dearly and there's nothing in the world I wouldn't do for them. I feel guilty saying this, but when I spend time with them I get overstimulated by how much they talk, ask questions, sing songs, argue with each other, etc. and it happens very quickly. I feel like I need a break after being around them for an hour. It makes me feel like a bad dad because I don't feel like I have the mental endurance to handle the unending flow of chatter, questions, and noises. I'm divorced so I don't have the option of requesting that their mom take them out of the house. What are some ways I can cultivate a good parenting relationship without feeling so burnt out when I have time with them? I love them and am tired of feeling like a bad dad.

So, caught my kid smoking pot. He is 18 and on his way to college (in town) in 6 weeks where he will be living at the dorms. We had a good discussion, talked about self medicating and how that is not the best way to deal with problems. Made sure he had a therapy appointment on the books. Talked about how it is still illegal in our state and he is not 21 even if it were legal. He is only working 20 hours a week this summer (in spite of DH and I pushing him to take on 40 hours), which means he has been spending his graduation money on this. So in spite of being SO ANGRY and feeling like a complete failure, we had a good discussion. But shouldn't there be some consequences?

I have a teenager (15M) who plays video games as much as he can. As long as he’s meeting his obligations I don’t have a problem with it. During the pandemic it’s how he got to spend time laughing and joking with friends. He also comes to tell me about what he’s playing, what happened, who did what. Which I think is healthy and I try hard to be interested since he is interested. My concern is how hard it is to hear about any video game gun violence with the rash of shootings. I try to remain neutral but I’m sure he can feel how disturbing it is. We have had good talks about violence and radicalization and so on and I feel reassured that he isn’t going toward those things IRL. What do you do when you want to like or at least tolerate something your kid is into that you genuinely find offensive?

SEX

I (24F) genuinely just want to understand because lately my husband (31M) has been into rougher things sexually. I have been trying to be open minded and understanding through all of this but I just really want to know … how is hurting the person you love fun? Calling me names? Telling me he wants to break me? Being happy that I’m all bruised because of him? Laughing at me for crying? Chocking me and leaving visible marks that I have to keep hiding? Refusing to do the things I actually like even just simply hugging and cuddling because that doesn’t turn him on? Refusing to talk to me after I say no or beg him to stop? And the list is long. I’m just sick and tired of feeling like I only deserve to be loved by him when I let him do whatever he wants with me. I’m tired of feeling like sexually we are not equal partners and only his happiness matters. What should i do?

I’m a 28 year old mother of two. Recently, I found out my son is having sex with his girlfriend who is a year older. I won’t get into the details of how I found out since there are creepos here I’m completely at a loss for what to do. I had a conversation with the girl’s mother. She grounded her and banned her from seeing my son. My son is upset and doesn’t understand why he’s in trouble. I could only tell him that he shouldn’t be doing it at his age, and he asked why. I want to tell him about pregnancy because maybe they’ll scare him, but honestly.. I feel so confused and hurt. I’m a single parent. I have no help. What should I do?

I’m (29M) marrying my beautiful fiancé (28F) next month! Her best friend/ maid of honor surprised her with a penis pump as a gag gift. Please help me understand this.